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How can you get your little one to listen to you? This is probably the most common question we we hear from parents all over the globe. Children have a on their minds, from the newest computer game, to the soccer tryouts to chemistry test. Toddlers are busy exploring the world and the brain of the older kids are overwhelmed by outside stimuli. They have different priorities and have other things to think about, so don't surprise yourself if your kid is not listening to you. Here are some clever tips for you!
When you get angry, your child feels unsafe and go into fight. In his effort to fight back or defend himself, he becomes less effective at listening and lose sight of what you are saying. If want to get your kid in the car, don't waste your time on arguing with your kid - that will make everyone more upset. Instead, help your little one pack his things, find his shoes and jacket. Once you are all in the car, you can talk about the situation.
Before you start speaking connect with your kid. Before you ask him to do something, get down on your kid's level and touch him lightly. Some studies show that when we feel connected with our children, we are more open to their influence and making it easy for them to listen to us. Don't manipulate with your child, but teach him the importance of showing respect. Wait until your child looks up and look him in the eyes and start talking. In case your kid doesn't look up, ask him a question like "Can I tell you something" and then start talking.
If you've asked a question and not gotten a response, don't repeat the question. Get your kid's attention and then start talking.
Use fewer words to keep your kid's attention. If you don't want to lose his attention while giving some important instructions, then make sure you also use as few words as possible.
If you stare at your smartphone while your precious one tells you some important info about school, you're role modeling how communications is handled in your home. If you really want your kid to listen to you, stop scrolling and listen. Practice this when your kid is a preschooler and he will still be willing to talk to you when he is a teenage.
If you were busy with something and somebody ordered you to do something else that was not a priority to you, how would you feel? Your kids don't have to share your priorities, they just have to accommodate your needs.